Yu Huang

In an age of overwhelming information, we have easier access to information on all sorts of girl-getting and flirting techniques, and we are building relationships with more people, yet it is also happening, as behavioural scientist Logan Ury suggests that it is becoming increasingly difficult for us to build intimate and lasting relationships.

This story comes from my own experience. I fell out of love. When I was consulting with my friend about my troubles, she recommended me a video, 'Ten minutes to make your partner love you forever', it tells you how to make your boyfriend love you forever, it has top hits and fans in some social media. People are already unknowingly in an environment where they are constantly being shared and shared about intimate relationships online.

I joined one such social media chat room made up mostly of young women and I observed that young women tend to be very emotional in groups. Through social media, emotions are gradually moving from the private to the public sphere, and people are stepping into a post-emotional society with their emotions, which often affects how individuals view intimacy.

Through conversations with fourteen women in the chat room, I find that many young women prefer to be in a cyberspace like this to have someone listen to them tell their love story, or to get quick answers from others to solve problems without scrutiny. The desire to eliminate your own blind spot in a relationship sometimes ignoring your own feelings, and becoming that blind spot yourself. When they enter such a group, they enter such a discourse construction rules space. The more answers they get from others, the less space for their own thinking. They doubt their own value and love in the words they exchange. The way they love.

Once there is a shadow when young women know themselves but can't interpret it, the self- worth will fall into the trap of sharing. I want to use these ideas to inspire the thinking of the girls behind the sharing, and encourage them to maintain a critical attitude when facing information.  

I created this image of a lost young girl. She might be every one of those girls I mentioned who are addicted to learning about intimacy online, or maybe it's you and me. She is constantly travelling through various online spaces and still feels lost

I photographed this young girl lost in an underground station, the underground space of which metaphorically represents the many passages and complexities of the linear space. Although we can find our way around with a few signs, most of the time we still get lost.

On many social media outlets, there are many young girls who use social software to search to learn about intimacy. Technology allows them to outpace real life to find answers related to intimacy, and the oversharing of the internet encourages women to endlessly share their stories and opinions. Too much discourse allows female values to be dissolved in the midst of this, a fantasy world that nevertheless squeezes the space for young girls to reflect on their self-worth through discourse. The rabbit hole is a metaphor for a myriad social media spaces. The video tells the story of a young girl searching for an exit, running and getting lost in this labyrinthine underground space.